Setting strong personal boundaries is not the cure to all your relationship problems. In fact, they're more of a side effect of having a healthy self-esteem and generally low levels of neediness with people around you.
Boundaries in relationships create emotional health. They are something you can start working on today with the people close to you and you´ll begin to notice a difference in your self esteem, confidence, emotional stability and so on.
1. Practice saying the opposite.
You can start by saying the opposite opinion to someone on TV. Practice using the phrase "I disagree" to be more assertive with your opinions. And start practising with people you feel safe.
2. Learn to listen to your needs.
A part of setting boundaries is respecting your own needs. You can start doing this by making a list of three things about yourself that you want to respect. This can be your energy levers, time, and feelings. Make a goal to honour your needs at least 5 times a week.
For example, rest when you're tired, rearrange your schedule if you don't have time, and honour your feelings.
3. Practice setting boundaries.
Now that you have a better sense of who you are, know your needs, and have practised expressing yourself, it's time to set boundaries.
Practice turning down requests, disagreeing with someone, and communicating your needs. You can also practice saying "no" to people without overexplaining why.
4. Stop rescuing or saving others.
Weak emotional boundaries lead you to betray your true wants, needs and feelings to please others. When you feel the need to fix people, you may agree to things you don't agree with, or saying yes when you want to say no.
You don't always need to be responsible for others feelings.
5. Practice the art of acceptance.
When your feelings are deeply influenced by someone else, you will want to control what they do and how others feel.
When you feel the urge to control, look inward, and ask yourself why?. You are your own person. Learn to sit in discomfort and practice acceptance. You are not responsible for things outside your control.
6. Learn to take things less seriously.
Don't assume that everything someone does is related to you. This causes a lot of stress, especially if you feel the urge to save people. Maybe they're just having a bad day or they might be tired.
Don't assume that your actions will always have a huge impact on someone else. Practice detaching yourself from others.
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